Three things you should see through most in life

 　　"busy" is a combination of the characters for "heart" and "death," implying that busyness leads to a dead heart.

　　Tian Wei wrote in *Half an Acre of Flower Field*: "In life, we all receive different scripts. Some are mundane, some intense, some filled with laughter, some with tears. No matter what, I must perform well until the curtain falls."

　　Life is so precious that any way of living it feels like a waste.

　　If I had to offer one piece of advice on not wasting life, I think it would be: Don't save the best for last. If you

　　don't finish your life, you might regret it, but regret is useless.

　　Let me tell you another story.

　　A bright and intelligent girl, she excelled academically and worked very hard from a young age, eventually gaining admission to a prestigious university, pursuing postgraduate studies, and studying abroad.

　　After returning to China, she became a young lecturer at Fudan University, entered into a happy marriage, and had children.

　　She achieved success in both love and career, but after becoming a winner in life, fate played a cruel joke on her.

　　At 31, she was diagnosed with late-stage breast cancer.

　　Even more cruelly, she only had a year and a half left to live.

　　She was Yu Juan, an outstanding overseas-educated PhD. After learning of her illness, she wrote a book about her reflections on life after her illness—"This Life Unfinished"—which has inspired countless people.

　　In the final days of her life, Yu Juan often pondered the meaning of life.

　　In her blog, she wrote: "I once threw myself headlong into something I wasn't even sure was my life's goal; I have to say it was a foolish thing to do. It was only after getting sick that I realized that people should build their happiness on sustainable, long-term life goals, rather than just focusing on fleeting fame, fortune, power, and love. Fame, fortune, power, and love—none of them are easy, and none of them can be taken with you

　　when you die." Perhaps only when one reaches the very end can one truly see the meaning of life! Just as Yu Juan said, fame, fortune, power, and love—none of them can be taken with you when you die.

　　At the brink of life and death, she realized: "You'll find that all the overtime, the pressure you put on yourself, the need to buy a house or a car are all fleeting. If you have time, spend it with your children; use the money you'd spend on a car to buy your parents a pair of shoes. Don't desperately try to get a big house; being with the one you love, even in a small apartment, is warm."

　　In the end, Yu Juan passed away at the age of 32,

　　leaving behind elderly parents, a grieving husband, and young children.

　　Her life was unfinished; these five words encapsulate endless regret.

　　Don't save the best for last.

　　"Gather ye rosebuds while ye may," is a truth everyone understands, yet few put it into practice.

　　Mo Yan recounted a friend's experience: his wife passed away, and while sorting through her belongings, they found a silk scarf, the tag still attached. Because the scarf was beautiful and expensive, his wife had always been reluctant to use it, wanting to save it for a special occasion. She never wore it until her death.

　　The friend lamented: "Never save the best things for special days; every day you live is a special day."

　　Just like being reluctant to wear a scarf, people always save up their wishes, only to find things don't go as planned. When young, you might want to climb a mountain but never do, and now, in old age, you can only sigh at the mountains. A dress you like while shopping might be too expensive; by the time you save up enough money, it's already out of style. A young child might want to fly a kite, but by the time you have the time, they've long since lost interest in kites.

　　Food expires, and so does happiness.

　　Life is like a basket of fresh apples. When they're fresh, you're reluctant to eat them; later, the apples rot, and you start eating the slightly spoiled ones.

　　After finishing the spoiled apples, the good ones spoil, and you eat the spoiled ones too. Saving the best for last results in a lifetime of eating rotten apples and suffering undeservedly.

　　Happiness not only expires but also disappears in the midst of busyness.

　　Bai Yansong, in his book "Are You Happy?", interprets the word

　　"busy" as a combination of "heart" and "death." Busy as you are, your heart dies.

　　Many people lose their true selves in pointless busyness. Living is like trying to fill a basket with water—it's all for nothing.

　　You give and you lose. You spend your whole life on the road, never enjoying the scenery along the way.

　　Don't lose the people who love you most.

　　Li Zongsheng has a lyric that only those who have lost truly understand: "Climbing over the hills, I find no one waiting."

　　Simple lyrics, yet a microcosm of countless poignant stories.

　　A poor young man ventures out to make his way in the world, only to return with a dowry after achieving success, only to find his beloved already married; a spirited husband toils tirelessly, gaining fame and fortune, only to be separated from his wife and children; parents, burdened by pressure, leave their hometowns to struggle, earning money only to find themselves estranged from their children; and then there are the children who never see their parents return in glory, only to be met with death.

　　"The child wishes to care for the parents, but they are no longer there"—this is the most common regret among Chinese people.

　　Recently, a story went viral on Weibo: an elderly woman in the mountains of Guizhou, whose daughter works in Guangdong and only returns home once a year for the Lunar New Year, leaving again in a hurry afterward.

　　The mother, concerned for her daughter's busy work schedule, always reported good news and kept her illnesses a secret, pretending to be healthy despite her deteriorating health.

　　Eventually, the mother succumbed to her illness one night, passing away several days later when her body was discovered by a neighbor.

　　Upon hearing the news, the daughter rushed home and wept bitterly before her mother's stiff, cold body, crying, "I regret it so much! I really regret it! I shouldn't have gone back to Guangdong after the New Year. I should have stayed with Mom."

　　At that moment, regret and tears were the most futile confessions.

　　With parents alive, life still has a source; without parents, life has no destination.

　　From then on, there would be no more waiting figure at home. Are we like this girl from Guangdong, always waiting: "

　　When I earn money, I'll bring my parents back to the city to live with me and let them enjoy their retirement"; "When I become better, I'll confess to the boy I love"; "When I finish my project, I'll travel with my family"...

　　Only later do we realize that "When I... then..." is an infinitely delayed future.

　　"Wait" will become "Wait some more."

　　When that day comes, I will definitely...

　　But perhaps, when that day arrives, that person will already be gone.

　　He's gone, he's grown old, or he's already passed away.

　　We always give our worst temper, our most helpless moments, and our longest empty promises to the people most important to us.

　　As a result, as we go along, we lose the person who loves us the most.

　　Live in the present, cherish every moment

　　. The story of "Little Monk Yichan" tells of a death row inmate's last day.

　　There was a lazy young man who always did petty theft.

　　One day, he went to the army camp to steal a horse and was caught. The general was furious and said he would behead the young man, but before that, he was allowed to speak his last wishes.

　　The young man said, "I want to cook a meal for my mother. I've always made her angry since I was little, and I've never properly respected her."

　　"And what else?" the general asked.

　　“I want to apologize to Xiao Cui. It seems I can't keep my promise to give her the jade hairpin,” the young man replied.

　　“Anything else?” the general asked again.

　　The young man wept bitterly, saying, “I wanted to learn a skill, so I could stop stealing, but it's too late now…”

　　Upon hearing this, the general drew his sword to kill the young man, but at the last moment, he let him go, saying, “You, a grown man, should be filial to your mother, give a woman a jade hairpin, and learn a skill to support your family. Why did you only think of doing it on your last day? I command you to treat every day as your last, so as not to betray my mercy.”

　　The young man suddenly realized that he must not leave important things until the last moment, otherwise he would regret it for the rest of his life.

　　This story tells us: live in the present, live each day as if it were your last, so as not to waste your youth.

　　Lin Xi has a lyric that goes: “I have also wasted my time, even recklessly facing death, but because I fell in love with you, I began to yearn for a long life.”

　　Having someone you love creates a weakness, and you begin to yearn for a long life.

　　But does love increase with longevity? Not necessarily.

　　Many people still carelessly waste time on separations while fervently praying for lifelong companionship.

　　Only by treating each day as if it were your last can you love with gratitude and sincerity.

　　Don't save the best things for last, don't leave the most important people for last to cherish; start loving yourself and others from this moment.

　　Love on the last day, spring will bloom.

　　Tian Wei said, "Every sleep is a death, and when we wake up, it is a brand new life."

　　How true.

　　May you love each day as if it were your last.

　　No regrets, no loneliness, no waiting, no hesitation, no wavering…

　　May you wake up each day to find the sunshine and everything you love still there.

　　…

　　(The End)