My first encounter with the concept of elders being wrong in ancient times.

     While casually browsing through the *Di Zi Gui* (Standards for Being a Good Student and Child), I came across a passage that says, "When parents err, one should remonstrate with a gentle countenance and soft voice. If the remonstrance is not heeded, one

    should remonstrate again, even if it involves weeping, and even if punished, without resentment." This suggests that in ancient times, when parents made mistakes, juniors would likely offer such advice and admonition. However, I think that nowadays, anyone with even a modicum of reason and normalcy knows that one cannot let

    elders continue to err. Instead, one should understand the truth, explain the reasons clearly, get to the point, and proceed step by step—these are the basic scientific methods. Yet, the *Di Zi Gui* suggests first and foremost acting opportunistically, pandering to elders' moods, even feigning tears and self-punishment, or even genuinely crying and being punished, all to elicit sympathy and thus a beating from the elders. This cunning, clumsy, hypocritical, and cruel behavior

    clearly does not solve any fundamental problem

    ! How can this possibly reflect the modern style and attitude towards interpersonal relationships and affairs? It's a far cry from the ideal!

    And why bother?

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